Dating can sometimes be exhausting, especially when you experience a string of blind dates that go from bad to worse, not to mention those horrifyingly shocking experiences that turn into laugh out loud stories you tell your friends.
Believe me, I know the feeling.
Sometimes you just want to say, “Enough. I’m tired of being disappointed,” but I believe that with an open mind, something good comes out of every blind date.
So, the next time your friend calls to say, “Hey, I know a great guy (or girl) you should meet,” here are four reasons you should say OK!
1. Don’t underestimate the ability of a matchmaker
Let’s say someone you work with asks if you’d like to be set up with his or her friend, and your silent gut reaction is, “If he or she is anything like you, then no thanks.” My advice is, get rid of the judgmental attitude and stop being a snob.
The person who wants to set you up could have great match-making abilities, and the date could turn out to be the person of your dreams. When people offer to set people up, most times it’s well thought out. Get over it and just accept!
2. Dating is a numbers game.
I used to be a telephone sales representative who had to make 100 cold calls per day. If I showed up for work and made the calls, it was inevitable that some would result in sales. If I was out sick, I would have no sales that day.
Dating is exactly the same.
If you go out on five dates, there’s a chance you might hit it off with one of them. If you go on zero dates, you have no chance of any igniting sparks. My point is, you will never meet someone sitting on your couch. Simply walking out the door increases your odds.
3. It’s possible to have a good time even if your date doesn’t turn out to be your soul mate
Meeting new people will always enrich your life in some way. It might have a big impact or it might be something as small as a book the person recommends, but I can almost guarantee that if you meet someone for coffee for 45 minutes, you will gain something.
So, next time you walk into the meeting place, see your blind date and say to yourself, “I could be home right now watching Dancing With The Stars,” don’t be so quick to dismiss the idea of being more open minded, and realizing you just might learn something interesting or end up having a good laugh!
4. The purpose of the date might reveal itself later
There is no doubt that people go on blind dates because they are looking for love. If the date doesn’t turn out to be Mr. or Ms. Right, it leaves everyone with frustration and/or disappointment.
However, a few things can happen by meeting “The One.”
That person could end up helping you in your professional life in some way. He or she could give you great advice about your job or offer a connection that helps advance your career, somehow.
Next, your bad blind date could end up becoming your platonic friend. He or she could then introduce you to friends, and one of the friends could become a romantic interest. The more friends you have (of either gender) the better! It can only lead to the expansion of your social network, not to mention the great gift of a friend.
Everyone knows how awkward and uncomfortable blind dates can be. Sometimes you meet the person and in the first 10 seconds you say to yourself, “No way.” Then there are blind dates where you are rolling your eyes while walking in the door of a restaurant, and in the first moment you meet your date, you say to yourself, “Wow, what a nice surprise!”
With blind dates, there are no guarantees, only opportunities. Like the lottery slogan declares: “You can’t win if you don’t play.”